26 May 2011

Dreaming about Life






by Ann Dagata Samples on Friday, April 15, 2011 at 4:46pm


How many of you know you go through dreaming stages throughout your life? 

I have dreamt all my life, but not just random dreams that I don't remember but I go through dream phases where I know I am dreaming future happenings. 

I remember when I put my Deja’vu together with dreams. Mostly because for years I recorded my dreams, the ones that were more like real life, not random events that get jumbled together, but dreams that play out a real story. Most of them at the time made absolutely no sense at all to me, but later when it happened I could go back and look at what I wrote.

I am in a dream phase of the future right now. I have never noted it before like this. It will last anywhere from 1-8 weeks. I talk a lot in my sleep and as my husband tells me it is like a real conversation not some jumbled up words.

I use to walk in my sleep but thankful I don't anymore. LOL

Recently I dreamt my son was being interview by a bunch of reporters because he was the latest golf sensation. When I shared the dream he started laughing only to tell me he has been thinking seriously about getting into professional golf, and was surprised because he had not told anyone about his thoughts. But my kids know me well enough not to be too surprised. 

I get excited to think about dreaming future events, they may not happen for 2,5, 15 years. I also dream a lot about issues that are inside of me that bother me on a subconscious level. I guess it is a way of bringing to my attention so that I can work through the "feeling" not so much the interaction with anyone but myself. 

I would love to hear about your dream experiences. 


"FEAR" What is it really? How to Move Past it -

"Fear from the Greek: φόβος,phóbos, meaning "fear" or "morbid fear", is a distressing negative emotion induced by a perceived threat. It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus. I have copied below the longer viersion of Fear. However because I am a pro at dealing with fear there is only one way to overcome it, FACE IT

No matter what it is FACE IT! DO NOT RUN AND HIDE, FACE IT! However before you can you must understand and deal with one fact....in facing it you could die. YEP that is the worst of worst things that could happen. So if you take a minute, go ahead, clear your mind and thoughts. Now imagin dieing. Anyway you want. Imagin being tortured, falling from a 50 story building, burning slowly, suffering from painful cancer. Now, imagin the end of that suffering you die. Dead. Now what ? 

If you compare that to the feeling you have if you think of those things and worry about them, fear them, run from them the pain and prolonged issues will haunt you and make your life miserable. Imagin worring about getting sick - you won't go out aroudn others, you won't touch things, you clean everything more than needed. Imagin being afraid of someone attacking you, so you stay in your house all the time, doors and windows locked, blinds drawn. Because your mind is telling you if you go out you will be killed. So if you already dealth with being killed you can go out.

There has been so much fear in my life there came a day when I was exhausted from hiding and running so I stood up, turned around and faced it. And I will tell you I will stand toe to toe with Satan himself or any evil there is, but I will not cower behind a chair, I will not hind in the dark waiting to be hurt....in fact, I will get in the face of fear and back it down.

Your voice, your eyes, your stance pushes fear in the back ground.  There was a time when my daughter was working as a bartender. It was her first night on the bar so we went to celebrate with her. While eating a nice dinner at the bar there was a big group that game in. After they had several drinks they started complaing that she was not serving them fast enough. The regulars that were there started standing up for her and telling them to settle down. Then before we knew it men are bumping men and words are flying. Was I a fraid? YES. But I would not cower and run. So I stood on my bar stool, wisteled really loud, which I do well, and told them all to knock it off or I would call the police. They looked at me like ???? And started back in at each other, so I did it again, this time they parted ways went back to thier seats and calmed down.

Now some think I am so brave, so in your face, but I tell you, I can recall a time I was at someone house, and her husband came home drunk and she would not let him in, I was no older than 9ish. So he proceeded to take a baseball bat and bust in the windows. I cowarded behind the chair in fear.

Every night I lay in my bed in fear. NEVER WILL I EVER let fear of ANY KIND keep me from living. Do I like it? NO, but I like being afraid less. So in order to take care of myself and live the life I deserve to live I protect myself in the best possible way, stand up to the fear, face it and make it go away. NO POWER

Same with any fear, spiders, falling, tight spaces, heights, no matter the fear, face it...and accept death, it is the worst possible outcome...
Here is the dictonary's description of fear...thanks for reading....Love, Peace and Joy !!

Ann

"Fear can be widely classified into two types: external fear and internal fear.
  • External fear is caused by something outside of you which you are strongly motivated to avoid, for example: fear of spiders.
  • Internal fear is something inside of you that you link a negative emotion, for example: fear developed out of low self esteem.
Fear can be described with different terms in relation to the degree of fear that is experienced. It varies from mild caution to extreme phobia and paranoia. Fear is related to a number of additional cognitive and emotional states including worry,anxiety, terror, horror, panic, and dread. Experiences of fear can remain long after exposure in the unconscious mind, where they may then manifest as nightmares, or, in an even stronger form, night terrors. Fear may also be experienced within a larger group or social network, and may be compounded by social influence and become mass hysteria. Some pathologies related to fear (defined by persistent and irrational fears) can include different types of anxiety disorder which are very common, and also other more severe illnesses like the extreme phase of bipolar disorder and some kinds of schizophrenia.

The experience of distrust can be explained as a feeling of mild fear or caution, usually in response to an unfamiliar or potentially dangerous person. Distrust may occur as a feeling of warning towards someone or something that is questionable or unknown. For example, one may distrust a stranger who acts in a way that is perceived as odd or unusual. Likewise, one may distrust the safety of a rusty old bridge across a 1,000-foot (300 m) drop. Distrust may serve as an adaptive, early warning signal for situations that could lead to greater fear and danger. Reassurance can usually dissolve a fear like this e.g. repeatedly doing something to gain trust in it.
Terror is an acute and pronounced form of fear. It is an overwhelming sense of immediate personal danger. It can also be caused by perceiving the object of a phobia. Terror may overwhelm a person to the point of making irrational choices and atypical behavior.

 Paranoia is a term used to describe a psychosis of fear. It is experienced as long-standing feelings and perceptions of being persecuted. Paranoia is an extreme emotional state combined with cognitions or, more specifically, delusions that one is in danger. This degree of fear may indicate that a person has changed his or her normal behavior in extreme or maladaptive ways." 

Dreaming - About Death

 

Last night will make the second dream this month that I was going to die or died. I forgot to write about the first dream but I basicaly was killed in my dream. 

Last night, I was in Prison and was going to be put to death. I was in an orange jump suit . At one point I was sitting in my cell on the edge of the bed - and it was like the first time I really let the fact that I was going to die sink in and I was in shock, disbelife, although not afraid, sad, regretful that I was so young and had not lived and done the things I thought I should have. That everyday I wasted doing nothing. I realized how special living was. And I was enormously sad, and the sadness was intensified because I knew I did not have a second chance to make it right.

On my last day I walked down this hallway carring a large duffle bag, it too was orange, I am pretty sure it was all my belongings. I was going into a large room where someone was that I loved. I could not see this person but I knew it was our last visit, time together, and I gave my bad to this person. I remember the Warden being kind and sorrowful that I was being put to death. 

There is a part of me that thinks I was allowed a new chance that I walked out alive, but the dream is too vauge to recall what really happened. So I will take it like this.

I woke up so I do have a new opportunity to live my life as I should be. Not to waste opportunities to show, tell, others and myself how special they are. 

One of the things that confirms I love my husband, because I love him the most when I am so mad at him. Loving him when things are wonderful is easy and normal. 

Loving everyone, even when their actions are hurtful, confussing, o causes anger to rise in me, Love unconditionaly. Pray, ask for my heart to not judge, but to live with sincere love, and trust what ever their path is and purpose is that I accept them even when I do not understand. And Know that their actions that cause me to hurt is not personal, it is their pain coming out and I just happen to be there. 

I ask that the day I die regardless of how it happens, that I never regret my life ~!

Always,Ann